Train
up a child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not
depart from it. Proverbs 22:6 NKJ
Point
your kids in the right direction—when they’re old they won’t be
lost. Proverbs 22:6 MGS
As
a Christian parent, my biggest concern was that my two children would
grow up to be mature disciples of Jesus Christ. My heart has been
broken many times to see children that have been raised in Christian
homes and have attended Bible-teaching churches only to forsake the
faith and desert the church.
Many
have interpreted the above verse as a promise to parents that if they
do their job right their children will never abandon the faith.
However, this has resulted in many parents feeling as if God has
broken His promise to them when their child turns from the faith.
This
verse is a proverb and not a promise. Proverbs are sayings
about how life normally works. But, there are plenty of exceptions to
proverbs, because life is complicated by many factors. Proverbs
are principles, not promises.
Bible
teacher, Peter
Goeman has an interesting insight into this verse. "In
addition to the fact that a proverb is a principle, not a
promise, Proverbs
22:6 is
likely a negative warning rather than a positive promise.
If we break down the verse we see some interesting details which
support the view this is not a promise...The context in Proverbs
speaks very negatively about the way of the youth. Thus, “his way”
likely refers to the sinful disposition of the youth. If true, this
particular proverb functions as a warning, not a promise. If parents
affirm a child in his or her own way, that child will embrace that
lifestyle throughout life..."
"By
way of application, the main point of the proverb is clear. Whether
it is positive or negative, Proverbs
22:6 cannot be viewed as a promise. Rather, it is a
principle that highlights the importance of parenting. Further, it
also highlights the tendency of the child to hold to the patterns of
his youth. However, we should avoid using such a proverb as a promise
that has no exceptions.
Parents
often think that if they have a set of rules for their child
to follow, they won't stray from the faithh. Keeping a set of
rules will never lead a child into saving faith in Jesus Christ. But
if a parent lives a consistent Christ-like life where they exhibit a
rewarding relationship with Christ, their is a good chance they will
follow in their steps.
RULES
WITHOUT A RELATIONSHIP LEADS TO REBELLION. (Josh McDowell)